CALLING ALL PARENTAL UNITS!

This is bullshit.  No kid should be treated like this. Below is a bully situation and how you can teach your kid to SMARTLY, and CONFIDENTLY deal with it. You want a confident, charismatic kid? Here’s the smart, confident way to teach your child to approach the kid that’s bothering him.

The names have been changed to protect the innocent.

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John is six, and the shortest kid in his class. It’s the first day of school and while riding on the school bus, he’s just met the meanest kid of first grade.

Harvey: Hey you! What are you doing? That’s my seat. Get out of it now!

John is smart. He knows not to fall into Harvey’s dominating frame that he’s set up. Instead, he uses his calm confidence to take a moment and evaluate Harvey’s body language. His parents have taught him that bullies aren’t really mean; they are just finding a way to compensate for their insecurities. In other words, this is Harvey’s twisted way of making a friend. Regardless, John was taught to either ignore negativity or make it positive.

John: Hey! What’s your name?

If John’s parents didn’t role play a bully situation with him beforehand, he wouldn’t have been ready to calmly approach the situation, but instead react with fear. John now knows to speak loudly and with strong eye contact when talking to someone like this. Not in a confrontational way, but in a way that shows he is not a pushover. Insecure bullies tend to gravitate towards insecure wallflowers. It’s like a ying and yang thing.

Harvey: Um.. Harvey.
John: Hey, Harvey. Come here and sit with me. I have something to tell you.
Harvey: Why?
John: Just come here.

John has no idea what he’s going to say to Harvey, but he’ll find out when he sits down. This is where those creativity exercises pay off. (Coming soon.)

John: Have you ever played thumb wars?
Harvey: Yeah, duh!
John: Sure, but you’ve never played DOUBLE thumb wars! Here, I’ll show you what to do. First we make one thumb war with these hands. Then, we cross hands and make the second thumb war. Now, are you ready? Let’s go.
Together: One, two, three, four. I declare a thumb war!

John saw a negative situation arising and he rerouted it before it got out of hand. He wouldn’t have been able to do this without doing a bully role play beforehand with his parents. Remind him to keep his cool and not to become negative, as that can lead into something worse.

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This is an excerpt from the book. Your kid having bully problems? What better way to deal with it than to role play the situation with him beforehand. Super big tip I hid in there: calmness. Making your soul calm before doing anything at all is the key to doing it confidently. Things done with haste will always get messy. Before playing in the park, have your kid sit for one minute calmly. Watch their demeanor as they play afterwards. Do this with everything, and he will learn to do it on his own. Easy stuff that makes a big impact.

Oh? This wasn’t enough bully lessons? Big Bad Bully part 2 coming out this week. Keep your eyes on the look out. You are the best parents in the world because you want to do everything possible to help your children grow. Even if your child is not having any issues, reading and learning and listening and observing are the best tools. Always strive to help make your children grow.

If you want to make sure this doesn’t happen to other kids in your neighborhood, or even around the world, the least you can do is pass this message on. Click the “Like” button, now. The blog post will land on your Facebook feed, and you will have possibly saved a child’s life.

Love ya’.

Anthony