I have to tell you something I haven’t told anyone in the past twelve months.

I’ve been formulating something so special, so entertaining, and so valuable that I haven’t even told my own parents. I’ve had to keep it top secret for a reason. If any word got out, there would be pandemonium.

Let me communicate this to you in two words: “It’s finished.”

Sneak peak: http://www.charismakid.com

On Friday, September 10, 2010, the Bible on charisma is being released to families everywhere. This is the only book in the entire world that teaches you all of the top secret strategies to social skills, confidence, and charisma for you and your kids. This isn’t some fluffed up, general knowledge, rehashed piece of crap. This is something of mere perfection, and the beginning of a cultural revolution.

Where else can you find a guide to teach you and your family these in-depth conversation skills and through-the-roof confidence?  There hasn’t been anything like that since the beginning of time. Until now.

Let me tell you the story of how it all came to be…

One year ago to this day, an angel came down from heaven and asked me to write something that will put and end to bullying and shyness, and make Nintendo Wiis obsolete and boring. At that moment, my shoulder had been lightly pressed by the thumb of God. He looked down on me as I looked up at him. I then knew what I had to do.

I started writing for an entire year straight.  Night after night, making each sentence and each paragraph beautiful and perfect. A little bit of funny here, a little bit of serious here, and extremely inspiring and practical all-around. I wasn’t writing my thoughts, I was writing the will of the angels and all that is holy up above. I was writing something that had the potential to take a normal family and turn them into real-life superheroes. And I called it…

Charismatic Kid: The New Breed Of Superhero

Sneak peak: http://www.charismakid.com

I can’t even describe how potent the stuff in this book is. Your kid will be bringing joy to every person that he walks by. High-fiving new friends, shaking hands with grandpas, and hugging his siblings. September 10th can’t come soon enough.

The word “bully” is dead.

Charismatic Kids don’t know the meaning of “bully.” It is a word of the past. Something that kids of the 1900s had to deal with. There is no more, “sticking up for yourself,” because there is no lack of self-esteem to stand up for. When all your child feels is confidence and positivity, he doesn’t experience anger from others. This book shows you how to teach your kid this mindset.

There is no feeling of being “left out,” because your child is the one bringing kids together, not trying to fit in. This is not about teaching your kids “things to say” to make them seem confident. This is about a full perspective shift to literally make them confident.

Drag this link to your bookmarks bar above:

When this upcoming Friday rolls by, click that link! You will gain access to the website where you can get the book.

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Gemma’s Painting at 2 1/2 years old

Children’s greatest gift…

…is the freedom to create without being bound by previous lessons, facts, information, and self-imposed rules. They are aware and free to interpret their reality as they see fit. They choose not to color inside the lines. They choose to draw chipmunks with blue dots and dinosaurs with big bellies. They have the freedom to create exactly what is in their mind without a predisposed vision of how someone else has already created it. This is their greatest power.

Do your best to let them take advantage of it, because it’s the only time they’ll be able to think and observe this clearly without having a world of “mind stuff” to clutter their heads.

They need to know that nothing but your love can come for free.

They want a cool new toy? It should be understood they have to help with the dishes after dinner for a week. Eventually your kid will be doing things on his/her own, and you can have more time to yourself.

This is not weird, this is how it should be.

The spoiled child revolution only started 20 years ago, and it’s obviously not working. Parents are notoriously known for being the most busy people on earth, and with good reason. But you can cut that work time down by simply teaching your kids to do things on their own, as long as it is safe and under your supervision.

RT @ResourcefulMom: and with that I think I just figured out how to have my four hour workweek.

Here are some easy responsibilities you can teach that are safe but still save you time:

• Cleaning their room
• Making their bed
• Putting dishes away after dinner
• Putting pajamas on
• Putting socks and shoes on
• Folding laundry and putting it in the dresser after you get it out of the dryer
• Helping to prepare dinner
• Washing hands
• Getting dressed
• Cleaning out the car
• Doing homework without asking for help every 5 seconds
• Answering the phone
• Taking out the trash
• Brushing teeth

See that Twitter link to your right? Tweet me more things you can teach your kid to do on your own, so YOU can have more time to do what you want. It sounds like it will take a while, and this is why parents are always doing things for their kids… to get things done quicker. Understandable. But here’s the truth: the learning curve starts off slowly, then slowly you’ll subtract yourself from the equation in each chore that they do. Frame responsibilities as something not as “momentous,” but something expected. Everything your children do is special, but there’s no need to act like chores are something out of the ordinary.

Does your boss applaud you for getting things in on time every day? At first, a reward is okay, but afterwards, what I call silent rewards can be given.

I’ll explain these at the free NYC Superhero Seminar in September. But for now, I’m going to take a cat nap while my kid is reading a book to herself.

I feel the dog you choose can help you to become more balanced as a person.

If I get a pitbull, aside from being beautiful, they are strong powerful dogs that are notoriously more aggressive than my original favorite golden retrievers. They need an emotionally strong and powerful person to deal with them. If you are emotionally weak, they will step all over you.

Same goes for the kid you have. If you are emotionally weak, your kid can step all over you. There is something to be said to nature deciding the general character of a person, but for the most part it is nurture. Some kids are naturally wild (like I was) and some are calm. How you decide to deal with their natural character is what is important.

If your kid is wild, and you are by nature calm and hippie-like, you will have to learn how to work with your child’s personality type. The same goes for an opposite situation. An energetic, animated, outgoing parent can end up overpowering their naturally calm child.

Just don’t mistake a child’s personality type for how you are treating him. Spoiled kids are prone to yell, fight, talk back, and rebel. Kids living with too many rules are prone to do the same, or just lay down and surrender.

Well-balanced parenting breeds well-balanced kids.

I can discuss all of this at the free Superhero Seminar in September, just remind me. I like this topic.

Don’t believe me?

Try having a conversation with your bedroom wall. How charismatic are you?

Charisma can’t happen if you are not taking the other person into consideration. The next time you’re having a conversation with someone, take a moment to think if what you’re saying could just as easily be said to that bedroom wall. If so, you’re not having an interaction—you’re just talking at yourself. ]]> http://www.charismatickid.com/conversation/talking-to-a-wall/feed/ 0 http://www.charismatickid.com/lifestyle/the-real-toy-story/ http://www.charismatickid.com/lifestyle/the-real-toy-story/#comments Tue, 03 Aug 2010 05:14:02 +0000 Anthony http://www.charismatickid.com/?p=960

Somewhere right now, a perfectly happy three-year-old is being tricked.

She is given countless hours of TV time, a Wii, a toy robot that talks to her, and light up shoes; and life is fine. The addiction doesn’t come until those things are taken away from her, they go out of style, or are no longer fun to play with.

Once this happens, a void is created in her soul. She was tricked into believing that those things were her source of happiness, and now she needs them back again in order to feel better.

She sees a commercial for a new toy on TV and thinks that it will fill the void in her chest. Once she gets that toy, she is once again at equilibrium. A few weeks later the toy gets old, and she is back to the incomplete feeling she felt before. It’s an empty feeling of worthlessness—the same way a smoker would feel without his cigarette.

When answering the phone, your emotional vibe is more important than the words that you say.

The same goes for your kid. Instead of teaching him the cheesy “Johnson residence?” line, simply have him focus on keeping a positive demeanor instead. Give him general guidelines to follow, and let his personality take the reigns.

The phone rings. Charlie picks up and responds with a warm and calm tone of voice. This should be his default affect at all times.

“Hello.” or, “Hi, this is Charlie speaking.”
“Hi. Can I speak with Marcia?”
“Sure. Who am I talking to?”
“This is Tim.”

Once the child knows with whom he is speaking, teach him to change his demeanor from warm and calm to enthusiastic. He wants to make Tim feel good about calling.

“Hi Tim! I’ll get my Mom in one second. Let me put you on hold.”

Charlie showed he was glad that Tim had called.

“Hey, Tim?
“Yeah?”
“She’s busy at the moment. Tell me your last name so she can give you a call back.”

Remember, it’s better to get multiple small commitments from someone rather than one big commitment.

Another thing to point out: notice how Charlie did not mention what his mother was doing? This is for safety reasons. We never want to let strangers, or even friends, know that your child is vulnerable.

If what you’re doing will only take a minute, tell Charlie to ask if the person would like to have a chat while he’s waiting. This is good practice for Charlie, and is better than making Tim wait in silence.

“She’s busy at the moment. If you stay on the line she can get to you in a minute, would you like that?”
“Sure.”
“Great. So what’s your favorite superhero, Tim?”
“Um… haha. I like Superman.”
“I like Superman too, but my favorite is Anakin Skywalker. Hold on Tim, here’s my Mom.”
“Hey Tim!”

Charlie, as taught, is the one who leads the conversation. He’s being taught how to act like an adult, and being Mom’s secretary can act as a medium for him to train.

I recommend teaching phone etiquette around when your child begins to read and write, for maturity reasons. As a guide, get out a piece of paper, write down these steps, and keep it near the kitchen phone. Feel free to use visual aids to help out.

1. Excited that he/she called!
2. Use his/her name a lot!
3. Gather information. (last name/phone number/message)
4. If Mom or Dad is busy, ask to chat or leave a message.
5. Don’t tell him/her what Mom or Dad is doing!

Most families are boring.

They do their same thing every day, every week, and every year. They name their kids the same names everyone else names their kids. They enroll their kids in the activities every other kid is enrolled in, their family outings consist of the same top three places for families to go: Six flags, Disney, and Mt. Rushmore.

They:

• Wear the same clothes
• Make the same foods
• Believe the same theories
• Watch the same movies
• Listen to the same music

This is not to say that this is bad. Most families are perfectly happy living this way, and that’s fine. That’s also not to say that if you are reading this and are realizing how boring your family life is, that you are a bad boring person.

It’s just that this is how everyone has been taught to think that families should be like. We just think, “This is the way it’s been for the past billion years, this is the way it must be.” So we never took a second thought at how we could mold our family to the way WE see fit.

As a family, you have the freedom to do whatever you damn like.

What I am simply trying to do is open your eyes to this. You have your own say at how to run the family, how to raise your kids, how you should live, how to spend your time. Instead of spending tons on Disney World, let them engage in different cultures. Instead of visiting the biggest tourist places when traveling, visit the small local towns where hardly anyone speaks English. Engulf yourself and your family in a different culture.

Not every family will care to do it any differently, most families are perfectly happy doing it “normal.” But to the family that is different, the family that goes off the tracks of the what always has been, theres a fire in your belly that needs to be fulfilled, to transcend the norm. You are “The New Parent,” the new family; because you are pioneering a new order, a new approach to how a family should be.

These families seek out each other; to have their kids mingle with each other, and the parents mingle with other “New Parents,” which makes your reality and worldview stronger. You may have different approaches to how to have a family, but that is the point. We are not trying to make a new “way to fam,” we are trying to tell you that you don’t necessarily have to do it the way everyone else is and how it’s been for years; you can ‘fam’ in any way that you’d like. Every “New Family” has their own way of living, and that is what is similar about them all, that they are all unique in what they do.

But there are distinctive similarities and trends with each “New Family.” They are innovators, they are creative, they are risk takers, and they are appreciative.  They are passionate about something, they move towards their passions, they expose themselves to new things, they love people, and they don’t judge other families on how they fam or what they do. They love life and want to experience what it has to offer.

These are the new families, they are sprouting up everywhere. I’m searching for them, and I’m going to showcase them on CharismaticKid. I will get to know everything about how they do it, so you can get an idea of how a “New Family” goes about doing things, and you can learn from their approach, tweak it a little bit, and make your own way of doing it.

Do you think you are this type of parent, and want to meet other families like your own? Come visit us for FREE in New York City on September 19th, meet the other parents, get the free 220-page book, and learn a ton about how to transform your family from “eh,” to “AH!.” Become “The New Family.”

Attend the free 2-hour Superhero Seminar on September, 19th.  Change your family’s life.

Get your shoes on!

CharismaticKid’s first ever Superhero Seminar will be in New York City on Sunday, September 19th. This is a parents-only seminar, packed with two full hours of intense social skills and confidence training for you and your child.  This is the only place in the world where you will get to learn how to teach this kind of thing at this deep of a level.

And here’s the crazy part. It’s free!

What’s that you say, Anthony?  Free?  Yes.  Totally free.  Free drinks, free food, and a free copy of my eBook, “CharismaticKid: The New Breed of Superhero”.  I want you and your children to be the most charismatic people in your town, so when the next birthday party comes around, your family can “own the place” with your charm.  Your kids will impress parents, lead kids, and shake hands with the Grandpas; while you are the center of attention at the hors d’oeuvres table.  Your stories will no longer be of the “fizzled out” type, your body language will be dead on, and you will bring gasps whenever you walk into a room.

Why superheroes?

Your family will resemble the fun Pixar-animated family, “The Incredibles,” except instead of kickin’ some bad guy butt, you will be putting smiles on the faces of everyone that you meet. That is the new breed of superhero.

CharismaticKid is not about coming from a victim mindset, where you teach your child to “get by” in life if they are shy.  Instead, we focus on charisma, and seeing eye to eye with the rest of the kids in the group.  This is highly potent stuff that I have spent years studying, formulating, and executing in my favorite science lab called life.

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Bullies?  BULLIES? As a CharismaticKid, there are no bullies.  Bullies are what happens when a child without strong body language and vocal tone enters a room.  Bullies are what happens when you haven’t properly prepared your child for social interactions.  Just as an athlete cramps up if he hasn’t properly stretched and warmed himself up before a big game, children will cramp up emotionally if you haven’t first prepped them for being social.

You will walk out of the seminar feeling like a new person, and being a New Parent, having a fresh look on raising your children.  Because not only do we focus on social skills, obedience, and confidence, but another necessary piece of the puzzle:  passions.  Your children can’t be content in life if they have nothing to live for, and that goes for every person on this earth.  I will expose to you the secret formula I’ve put together on how to teach you and your child to be passionate about life. Whether it is a passion for people, sports, or art, your child will become more charismatic, focused, and psyched about life once there is a reason to be living in it.

I know.  You wish you had these skills around when you were a kid; your children are fortunate to have parents like you that are ambitious enough to learn this kind of stuff.  And you are fortunate enough to have an opportunity to capitalize on the most important part of your children’s life: relationships with others.  Think about it, what good would math, science, english, and geography be if there was no one else on this earth?  Human connections are of utmost importance in a person’s life, yet there is no place to learn how to teach it to your kids!  There is no book on this type of thing, there is no class in school you or your kids can take. That’s until CharismaticKid. (You will be receiving the book in your e-mail at a surprise time!)

CharismaticKid is the first and only company that specializes in teaching skills in human interaction for parents and their children. We are the best at what we do.

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We will cover five main areas:

Obedience

• Learn how to turn your rambunctious lil’ guy into a miniature soldier.  No more treating yourself as the “servant” to your kids, but the leader.
• Teach your child how to follow your every word and command, looking to please you at every moment of the day.
• Discover the REAL way to reward good behavior, while ignoring the bad.

Confidence

• Learn how to prevent the onset of an “ego” in your child before it has a chance to develop.
• Teach them what it means to be a “selfless person.”
• Get them to understand what it means to be a “value giver.”

Conversation

• Bleeding-edge conversational techniques from “Hello!” all the way to “Let’s set up a playdate!”
• Highly potent body language techniques that can disarm a bully before he has a chance to strike.
• Learn how to work a group and teach your child to do the same.

Passions

• Learn the three-step method for getting your kid ultra passionate about life.
• Daily after-school activities that are sure turn your child from a video game junkie into a movie producer, artist, musician, or entrepreneur.
• Find out how to go on “The New Vacation.”
• What to get for his birthday. (It’s not what you’d think)

Games and Exercises

• A bevy of improv games specifically made to skyrocket your child’s conversational skills up through the roof.
• Creativity exercises that are so powerful, you will be stunned at how they work.  (It’s almost black magic!)
• We will be doing all of these exercises during the seminar, so you can see them working in action.

Do you see how ridiculously beneficial this seminar will be to you and your children?  And the insane fact that it is free is just unheard of.  The only reason I am making this seminar free, is because it is the world’s FIRST, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.  I want as many parents to experience my teachings, and the only way to do that is to make it open to the public.  But trust me, it won’t be like this for long.  The Superhero Seminar will cost $500 to each family that signs up after this September 19th date.  You’d be crazy not to sign-up and come to this.  You are basically wasting $500 by missing out on this opportunity.

Since this seminar is totally free, I have but one request.  Please bring as many friends as you can.  Even if you can bring your spouse, that is excellent.  The more people that can benefit from this program, the better.  And it’s free.  They do not need to sign-up on this page, only you do.

So how do you get in?  Just sign-up below and you’re in.  Afterwards, I’ll send you a letter in the mail and then give you a call the week before the seminar to confirm your guest count.  And that’s it!  Get excited.

It is now time to click here to enter the sign-up page.

I met the most amazing two-year-old today.

…with a better personality than most people I know. This kid is outgoing, sociable, funny, positive, and energetic. He has already learned facial expressions normally possessed by nine-year-olds. He uses adjectives like colossal and gigantic. He has no fear, and he is an approval giver. He was giving ME compliments! Most of all, he’s always living in the moment.

He was at a birthday party I was doing, so I chatted with his Mom to see what was going on. The first thing she said was, “I talk to him all the time.” But I wasn’t satisfied, so I approached her again. I asked her what she did to make him have such great social skills at such a young age. She told me that instead of talking to him from a logistical standpoint, she is always stimulating his imagination.

For instance, instead of telling him, “Let’s get in the car and drive to school,” she will say, “Quick! There’s a dinosaur on our car and we have to get in there before he eats us! It’s a learning dinosaur and maybe he’ll come to school with us!”

She is exciting his imagination while teaching him the beauty of creative expression towards others. Instead of making life seem like a chore, she made every little task into an adventure that she and her child had the opportunity to engage in. To translate this into a lesson for you, this kid’s brain is always being stimulated, he is never thinking of something as work, or as a wall to climb over, but rather something to enjoy – all the time. His mind is always being challenged from his mother — constantly keeping his mind active.

I think he’ll grow up to be an actor, businessman, or maybe a political figure, but one thing I know for sure is that he will be a great conversationalist and loved by everyone he meets. If you are not enjoying your interactions with your kid, they are not going to enjoy their interactions with others. When you are having fun together, speak with your child like they are your best friend. When it is time to be a parent, be a parent.   But without seeing your child as your friend, they will always see themselves as just a child.